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Success: Whats
Love Got To Do With It?

Written by Crystal Hayward, 5 years ago, 0 Comments

Success: What's Love Got To Do with it?

Love is the most powerful force on the planet. Some say it can even move mountains. A figure of speech, of course.  Success to most of us is associated with financial freedom and independence. What defines love is as vast as what defines success. Who would even think there was a link between the two? I believe there is: Read on...

I recently read the article "Struggling Chinese Man Becomes Extremely Successful After Meeting His Beautiful Soulmate".   The last paragraph of the article in the words of fellow entrepreneur, Craig Clemens is very telling of the male mind set: In his opinion, if the right long term supporting partner/wife is found, it is good for business , keeping other distractions at bay and helping you focus more on your goals and business.

From the beginning. A Chinese man, Mei, who feels he was failing in school travels to Africa to pursue an education. After graduation he ended up in Ukraine.

"He skipped classes a lot during the first semester and stayed home playing video games or going to the gym to play ping pong. Through ping pong, he met a beautiful 17-year-old high school student who would eventually become his wife" - who also happened to have the brains and body to motivate Mei into action and ultimately his current success. She is also the mother of their first child.

"Mei is now so successful that he recently purchased over 30,000 square feet of land on which he’s built a villa for his new family." Through this relationship he has learned to enjoy the simple things in life: sharing a meal and going for long walks together.

So what is the secret to their domestic bliss that led to Mei's success as an entrepreneur?  I really do not believe there is a magic formula. Sometimes we happen to meet another kindred spirit when we least expect it. I thinks its wonderful Mei's story can inspire billions of others to strive not only for love but a "soul mate" connection. "Mei’s story has gone viral through Chinese social media and forums. But his story is proof of how much of an impact a quality significant other can have on your success."  Let's be honest, it requires a very supportive mate who believes in your goals and willing to be there for you in good and more challenging days.

Scientifically speaking, I've been watching Ted Talks on the topic of romantic love. Basically, there are lots of positive, happy chemicals dancing around our brains when we fall in love. These chemicals create a strong feeling of attachment, bonding, and focus on another person.

I feel that not just any love can take us to our fullest potential. The wrong match can be a painful distraction. It’s important to save our energy for someone who will reciprocate. My fiance sent me a quote that explains the purpose of marriage perfectly: Marriage isn't 50/50; it's 100/100! It's not splitting everything (that's divorce); it should be two people giving the best of themselves for each other at all times.

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About Crystal Hayward

Crystal Hayward resides in Queens, New York. She is a writer and, certified hypnotherapist, and holistic healer. In addition, she has a BA in psychology. As a child Crystal was put in a foster home, and was adopted by her aunt and uncle. Early childhood experiences shaped her as a mother. Growing up in New York was exciting. I never forget the kindness of strangers along the way and believe in the power of paying it forward.